tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25030569.post97508156296167890..comments2023-09-10T07:33:40.260-07:00Comments on Married to an Addict: Co-dependenceA.N.http://www.blogger.com/profile/10895214106779855938noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25030569.post-43414093041545854282010-09-14T07:54:16.665-07:002010-09-14T07:54:16.665-07:00Amy - I'm not sure if you ever still look at t...Amy - I'm not sure if you ever still look at this but I just found your blog today and wanted to tell you how much I've enjoyed reading it. I am a recovering addict and am engaged to a person who I thought was "recovering" but, as it turns out, is just an "addict." I caught him in a lie this morning (though he doesn't know it yet) and am trying to decide if I should break off the engagement. I have forgiven so much already....how can I keep forgiving and maintain any pride at all? Do you wish you had never married Chris? I love "D" so much and I want so much to have a life with him but....can it ever happen? I don't know. I just wanted to say thanks for your openness and honesty....you've made me feel less alone today.Roxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06900585301230746973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25030569.post-89315344236467521112007-07-04T16:56:00.000-07:002007-07-04T16:56:00.000-07:00The strongest people I know are codependent. It w...The strongest people I know are codependent. It will not shock you to learn that I rejected that label as well. I read that book by Melanie Beatty and it floored me to think that while I thought I was in control he really was. It took me a long time to get through that book. Welcome to the club. And yes it does answer why you went in to social work and why everything that I kick around for schooling is a helper job. I don't think it is as bad as it is made out to be, you just have to be aware, thats all! (like it only requires sunscreen, ha ha ha)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25030569.post-79568998613265744742007-07-03T14:54:00.000-07:002007-07-03T14:54:00.000-07:00I hate that label too, and wouldn't call myself co...I hate that label too, and wouldn't call myself codependent for the longest time, because it sounded weak, which hell, girl! I am NOT! But I have had to admit that I'm with my husband for a reason and that my own experiences and thought patterns contributed to that.Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25030569.post-30352257372574557702007-07-03T08:57:00.000-07:002007-07-03T08:57:00.000-07:00It's the word "codependent" that's so awful. It so...It's the word "codependent" that's so awful. It sounds opposite of "independent." I rejected the label just like you're doing, until I found a similar list, and then I, too, had the "oh shit" moment. I learned to think of it as co-dependent, as in co="with" dependent="junky"...I'm living with a junky, and I've lived with an alcoholic before that...so I've developed all these personality quirks that make me mesh will with addicts.<BR/><BR/>Double sigh.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01453075718683708291noreply@blogger.com